Freedom should be, but in the framework of the paramount concern for family and family happiness.
Young spouses can and should meet with friends – together or separately. The most optimal option if it will be family meetings, because the interests and psychology of idle, married and divorced are very different.
Sooner or later the spouses adapt to each other and even the intimate relationships of the spouses become not as violent as in the first years of marriage. Their interest in each other is dulled. And wives are very sensitive to the difference in relationships before marriage, in the first years of marriage and the next years of family life. After all, at first her husband had a desire to communicate only with her, and then the prerequisites appeared for returning to the previous circle of friends. And she increasingly notes that the spouse’s craving for home comfort is weakening. Meetings with friends are accompanied by drinks. Conflicts in the family begin.
It is possible that the woman met the wrong man to create a family that would suit her interests and hobbies. Perhaps for her, this man does not have the qualities of a good husband. This does not mean that he, so-and-so, does not want to engage in home and family, but only to have a drink with his boyfriends. Just this woman appreciates other qualities in her husband. And a man to create a family should have other interests and views similar to those of a woman.
What qualities women want to see in the future husband?
In large cities, sociologists have conducted a survey of women to find out what a man should be to create a family, and what qualities a good husband should have. The most popular were the answers: masculinity, care, affection, attention, should devote time to raising children in the family, assist in the performance of domestic, family responsibilities, should strive to spend rest with the family.
The second question was, which of the qualities of a man is very undesirable? And in the opinion of women, a man for creating a family should not be lazy, should not abuse alcohol, and should not be passive and conflicted. They answered a lot: should not meet with friends, sacrificing family communication. All the features listed are not qualities of a good husband.
A few women crossed out the form and wrote: men do not like anything. They are all the same. Well, I think almost everyone will agree that this extreme opinion is painful and incorrect. Perhaps the reason was a strong psychological trauma caused by a man.
At the same time, no woman indicated harmony in sexual relations, as the basis for a happy family. And in the questionnaires concerning the cause of divorce, there are such answers, dissatisfaction with sex in marriage can cause discord in the family. In subsequent conversations with women, it turned out that many husbands do not have basic knowledge about sexual literacy. That is, a man for the creation of a family must possess to possess the knowledge of sexual life, this is one of the qualities of a good husband, described by women, therefore, it is very important for them. I think no one will argue with that.
What qualities in men do women consider negative?
According to the survey, the largest number of divorces is associated with the husband’s addiction to alcohol. Those. Divorce – one of the consequences of alcoholism in the family. Women even preferred loneliness and refraining from intimate relationships than living with a scandal-drinking, demanding sexual intercourse by her husband.
So, from inattention to his wife, from selfishness, there was a crack in the relationship with a woman in the family. And even conversations that need to spend more time with the family, and not with the machine, for example, do not help. I am happy to do the machine, because it will not let me down. And the wife – how many do not wipe the valves, still rattles. No, no, yes and break. It is noted that after buying a car, men begin to gain weight, physical activity and exercise decrease. Everyone saw in the morning – one goes to work on foot, cheerfully, straightening his shoulders, literally carries a charge of energy. And the other barely cram a fat belly into the car.
Almost the only burden for such men is sexual intercourse and, in many cases, it is stimulated by alcohol. As a result, the wife receives no satisfaction and the man suspects that she does not love him or she has a lover. Here you have family conflicts again.
Male authority is a relative value, it is not given once and for all. It should be formed and constantly maintained – with attention, kindness, affection, care, and these are just the qualities of a good husband, the men who possess them are men for creating a family, women say this, which means for women, the presence of these qualities is important.
And yet, most women believe in men, in their decency and kindness, in any case, they rely on her and are fighting for the family with all their might. And is it not better for men to remember their “high rank”, to become men to create a family, to instill in themselves the qualities of a good husband. After all, the children in the family look at their father, first of all, the son and take an example. And they will also have children and the happiness of children, the happiness of the family depends on the care, attention, responsibility of the man in the family.