This difficult day, which most children have to endure, can and should be turned into a holiday without tears and fear. Simply organize everything correctly.
You have been waiting for this day. Who is looking forward to (“finally go to work!”), Who is horrified (“why did he grow up so fast?”). But all – with excitement. And here it is – tomorrow your child goes to kindergarten. Of course, blouses – jeans are bought, pencils and albums separately, napkins and removable shoes separately. Everything is folded and stands at the very exit, so as not to forget. Some especially caring and nervous (she herself, what is already there) bought flowers for the teacher and nanny. And what about, September 1 is the beginning of the school year in kindergarten.
What is left to do?
– Remind the kid that he goes to the kindergarten tomorrow. Let the morning rise not be for him an unpleasant surprise.
– Take a shift for yourself – if in your kindergarten parents are allowed for the first time to be in a group with children.
“To calm the grandmother – she probably already began to lament: “Oh, you are my poor thing, and how will you be there without us, in this garden!” sending him to sleep with the words: “We get up early tomorrow, and we need you to be cheerful and cheerful!” The same applies to dad. As soon as he opens his mouth on the topic “men do not cry” or “good girls like to go to kindergarten”, we immediately take the child away, and with the father we act like with grandmother (see above).
– Go to bed on time. Try to get the bedtime ritual for the child to be the most ordinary: with a familiar fairy tale, a lullaby and a glass of milk. They told, sang, got drunk? Go to sleep, you need morning vigor and freshness more than anyone.
You should not try to sleep “another five minutes” after the alarm bell. So you can be late, but this is absolutely contraindicated for you today. Gently wake the child, open the window, open the curtains so that the room becomes fresh and bright. You can include fun energetic music; it will help create an atmosphere of joy. And calmly, calmly – no need to make noise, adjust, pull. Let the child feel that the new life is not as unusual as he thought.
Breakfast is an important moment. Cook your kid his favorite dish. It is clear that every day you can’t eat macaroni or French fries with ketchup in the morning, cereal and curds are definitely healthier. But today you can make an exception. And in no case do not shove food into the child if he refuses even from chocolates and pastries. Perhaps now he is just experiencing, and in kindergarten he is happy to have breakfast with other children.
Dress the baby in comfortable clothes. During the camps, tell some funny stories from your “kindergarten” life. If you did not go to the kindergarten, the experience of the elder brothers or sisters of the child, as well as the father and other relatives will be useful. The baby must realize that this is a normal stage in the life of each person. But do not overdo it, telling about the rain of candy and a bag of gifts from the teacher, otherwise the child will later be disappointed (unless, of course, in his garden will not be so). On the way to the kindergarten, sing a funny song that you will be singing every morning from now on. Say that this is a magic song – it enhances your mood, gives strength and makes the day especially good. In the future, such a simple ritual will help the child to tune in to the kindergarten.
What is not worth telling a child:
“Dear, you will be the best there!” Or “Such good kids go to kindergarten, they will immediately love you, you will be friends!” First of all, you understand that this is not quite true – so why lie. Secondly, deceived expectations will not bring the baby anything but bitter disappointment.
– “Take your Bear with you!” – if you already know that in your kindergarten home toys are prohibited. The motivations of “what if they don’t notice?” And “what’s the matter, the toy cannot be brought” do not work – everything ends up with the baby having to part not only with the mother, but also with the favorite teddy bear at the final point of the route.
So, we have come!
In the kindergarten, help the child to undress and change his shoes, take him to the group, bring him to the caretaker. If the parents were allowed to stay at least for a while, go with the baby around the room, together look at the toys, find out where the toilet and the bedroom are. Baby needs time to get comfortable.
When the time comes to part, explain that you will leave for a short time on business or at work and will be back soon. Hug and kiss the child goodbye. Some believe that if the baby is capricious at this moment, it is imperative to wait until it calms down. However, practice shows that it will have to wait forever. With this attitude, your morning goodbyes will not only become your personal nightmare, but will drive the educator, the children of the group, and anybody else crazy. Keep in mind – as soon as mom leaves, most of the children switch to games with other babies, and your long persuasions will only upset the child more. Psychologists say that mom’s confidence and calmness will affect the child better than any words, therefore, no matter how much the moment of separation leaves you, do not allow yourself to let a tear or sob. Also, do not persuade the baby: “Do not be offended, do not cry.” If the child is upset, he will not accept your words anyway, but will continue to do everything so that you remain, that is, to cling to you and cry, cry, cry.
On the first day, do not leave the baby in the garden for more than 1.5-2 hours. Tell him in advance at what time you return, and come exactly on time. If according to the plan in the kindergarten children go for a walk, try not to come at this time. The walk is an important point of the “kindergarten” schedule, and your baby will be busy exploring a new site, playing with new friends and learning the rules that the teacher will announce.